Friday, January 11, 2013
I typically HATE New Year resolutions and all the crap associated with it, ESPECIALLY the influx of diet commercials for crap programs that only diminish one thing - your bank account! I swear if I get another piece of junk mail for gym memberships I'm going to throw a treadmill at someone - why can't people be encouraged to walk more often? Dance more often? Hike more often? Play sports (that aren't a bore) with friends more often? I LOATHE going to the gym - I hate the bad music, the bad attitudes, the crowds, the smell, and the cost and I hate staring at a wall while I walk on a piece of a machinery in a building. You can be active for free.  I shouldn't have used the word typically, I still do hate all that shit but I do however have nothing against people trying to better themselves, I fully support that, better away. I tend to do things more when I write them down which is why if you look through any of my journals/day planners/any scrap of paper about you'll come across some sort of list whether it has "to do" on it or not. So with all that said I'm going to write a to-do list for 2013 and see how it goes, I fully encourage any of my readers (with kindness please, nobody responds positively to bullying) to hold me accountable to these things so here I go (I may regret this):

* Be less judgmental and closed minded. I actually consider myself a very open minded person who lives by the philosophy of "if you're nice to me I'll be nice to you" but I want to continue and expand it. I want to let go of my preconceived notions and accept people for who they are, on that note I also want to learn to accept people for who they aren't... if that makes sense. I also want to be more capable of accepting things I have a hard time understanding.

* Be less judgmental, harsh, critical, and closed minded to the way I see myself and my abilities. In the words of an Adam Sandler movie I don't particularly care for "you can do it." I am sick of beating myself up and not taking chances because of my insecurities or fears. 

* Be more proactive in things I am passionate about.

* Blog more often and more openly. I want to quit limiting myself on what I say: I am an atheist, I am plus sized, I am liberal, I curse a lot, I really love my cats, I have a really dirty mind, and I make a lot of sex jokes and I'm sick of filtering myself in the fear of alienating people. I don't care about being likeable, I just want to be myself and you cannot make everyone happy and I don't even care to try to. With that said I accept people for who they are and would sincerely hope for the same consideration (aka don't leave yet kittens).

* Keep a regularly scheduled journal. For memory call backs since my memory is worse than an raging alcoholics, I seriously think I had an easier time recalling things when I use to drink more often.

* Get off the computer and out of the house more often. I need to start taking more walks (because I love them), going to new places, visiting the library, going to shows, going dancing, seeing friends, going to parks, etc! I constantly have to remind myself that not everything takes heaps of money.

* Be less afraid to go out alone. 

* Be more social!

* Write. Create. Grow.

* Not give a shit. About certain things like the size I'm wearing or whether someone is giving me the stink eye or if someone is going to comment on my flip flop wearing in Winter.

* Get medical insurance and have a steady income.

* Stop giving into consumerism. Food, clothes, toys, music, etc. I mean I'm not going to give up completely but I have to stop when other things are more important and I have to learn to know when not to talk Jason into buying me things.

* Read. Learn. 

* DRINK MORE WATER.  This is really hard for me, I find water to be the most dull tasting substance known to man but I know I need it. 

I will probably end up adding to this at some point or another but for now this list will do.


Courtney Erin said...

That's a pretty solid list - I gave up on resolutions years ago but I hope you make all yours happen!

Courtney ~

Laura Go said...

I made a list of resolutions last year that I posted on my blog with the thought that if I did tell people about it, I would be more motivated to do them. But, that's hogwash. So no more resolutions for me. At least no more resolutions that I give myself a year timeframe for. ALSO more realistic resolutions. Yours are pretty awesome, actually. And I think we have a few goals in common such as "be social" and "have a steady income." Hope we both can achieve those! :)

♥ laura
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Honeysuckelle said...

@Courtney Erin

Resolutions especially made at the beginning of a year are definitely a little silly and way redundant. I see it more as a to do and a to don't list and my to do list refuses to have "lose 15 lbs before March hehe" on it. Yes, I am really annoyed by peoples desire to diet in the new year, mostly I just hate the idea of diets in general. Anywho, there I go on a little rant as usual. Thank you for the well wishes on my to do and to don't list. I hope we both kick 2013's ass, Anne Boleyn style. Hmm, I'm not sure what "Anne Boleyn" style means but she was pretty bad ass and way before her time.


Honeysuckelle said...

@Laura Go

I totally see your point, a year is either not enough time or too much time or resolutions made for a year are not something that needs to be done for only one years time. I sincerely hope we both achieve all that we want in the year and in within many years to come, the increased income and increased socialness are definitely going to be on my mind. Carry on with your badass self my dear <3


The Canon Girl said...

I say: spray all your liberal, atheist, sexual awesomeness onto us! That sounds very nasty. OH WELL. I basically feel the same way as you about new years resolutions but there's never a wrong time to think about your life, the direction it's heading and the way you want it to be heading.

Honeysuckelle said...

@The Canon Girl

Haha, I am definitely going to try to get in the habit of filtering myself less. Haha at it sounding nasty. I agree with you on that last sentiment! Thank you so much for commenting, I was laying in bed checking my blog on my phone and saw a new comment and a new face and spent a good 30 minutes checking out your blog and now I'm out of bed and checking out your blog.


ShyScout said...

Sounds like a great list to me! I look forward to you blogging more openly! Say whatever you want to say lady. It is more fun that way :] I also am not big on water drinking - it is so blah.

Arielle-HumblePieVintage said...

These all pretty much apply to me too. I think you definitely should start blogging more openly and honestly. I want to try to do that this year more too. I think you're good at coming off opened minded because I know we have different views but you never make me feel weird and I never worry that you hate me now. lol.
i'm working on being more social and stepping out of my box too. I'm a homebody and I dont like a lot of people and social situations(that sounds bad lol) but i'm trying and doing good so far. Pretty much I second all of these, to sum it up.

Honeysuckelle said...


Thank you and I'm definitely going to try letting loose the sex jokes and excessive amount of favored curse words. Gah, thank you, I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I find drinking water to be such a task and I always have family members, friends, and doctors lecturing me about it but it is not my fault it has no taste or crappy taste. I like water when it has something else with it like kool aid powder and a cup of sugar...


Honeysuckelle said...


Isn't it silly to think people want you to be someone other than yourself because in almost all cases I've ever come across no one actually wants that for anyone else and typically if someone is repressing something about themselves it seems to show anyway. I'm so glad I don't make you feel weird ever because even though I know we have differences in beliefs I think you are awesome and I'm so glad I've gotten to know you through blogging. I have the exact same problem, I really don't like a lot of people and I hate crowds and a lot of social situations make me really uncomfortable but I'm trying to be more comfortable and open or at the very least not care if someone is thinking or saying something negative about me. I hope we both conquer 2013.


Nnenna said...

I always struggle with resolutions but this year I really tried to create a short list of things I actually think I can accomplish!

Honeysuckelle said...


Me too, I've already struggled with a few of the resolutions I put on this list already (see the part about drinking water, I'm so bad with it). Best of luck with your resolutions, love.


Thick Threads said...

awesome list! :) i agree with the gym hating. i am really not a fan of the gym which is why i take hour walks afew times a day and am starting swimming and sure as hell cant wait for the summer to ride my bike already! people need to get out more, it will make everyone more happy and less judgmental! :)

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